Couples Therapy Intensives

 
 

Imagine having a relationship where you feel:

  • Appreciated, Admired, Respected and Honored by your partner

  • Safe in having conflict and in sharing vulnerabilities

  • Trust that you are accepted and loved, flaws and all

  • Joyful in moments within your marriage and life with relative frequency

  • Empowered to work on your marriage with research-based tools because you have increased both your capacity and desire to do so

  • Supported in your dreams and celebrated in your achievements

Sounds amazing, right? Feels impossible too, right?

By working with me on Maui, you can gain all the skills to begin to create a relationship that has all of those amazing aspects listed above in it!

Come to Maui and make incredible shifts in your relationship.

Get ready for a transformative week in the tranquil beauty of Upcountry Maui! Join Beth Wylie, an expert Gottman Couples Therapist, as she leads you and your partner through powerful communication breakthroughs. Discover life-changing tools for deeper connection and lasting growth, all while soaking in the serene island vibes. 🌿💫

You and your partner will immerse yourselves in multiple hours of therapy each day, allowing for substantial progress and immediate feedback. It's like condensing six months' worth of traditional therapy into one power-packed week. Beth's approach fosters deep connection, effective communication, and tangible results.

Drawing from the groundbreaking research of Dr. John Gottman, these intensives are tailored to address the core dynamics of relationships. By delving into the intricacies of emotional responsiveness, conflict resolution, and intimacy, couples gain insights that pave the way for a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

Working with a therapist like myself, who is skilled and trained in couples therapy, will help you cut through process-oriented conflicts (fights about how you have fights) and get straight to the actual feelings and issues. By spending this intensive amount of time working solely on your marriage, you feel more connected, committed, and energized. You will also leave with a plan for your marriage, a plan that maps out the purpose and intention.

Experience the transformative power of couples therapy intensives with Beth Wylie, where the lush landscapes of Maui provide the perfect backdrop for healing and growth.

 

Couples Intensives vs. weekly or bi-weekly sessions

I have been doing in-person talk therapy for 14 years. I typically see clients on a weekly or bi-weekly basis. Over the last 14 years, I have seen just how little an hour of time actually is, especially when dealing with trauma or with a person who struggles with regulating their emotions. When much of the time is spent helping the dis-regulated person self sooth physiologically so that they can stay in the therapeutic process, we lack time to be able to actually dive into the issues the marriage is experiencing, nor do I have time to teach tools fully through. I also spend a lot of time helping the couple come back to the issue vs. going into the process (fighting over how you fight). All of this takes time, and sadly I have seen many feelings left on the therapy room floor. The couple usually does not talk about the session again (at least not with much intention). They go back to their lives and the stressors that are helping to create tension, tones, and tears. So when I see them again, little to no processing went into the feelings that came up the week before and we are usually at square 1. This does not make for change that is quick, and people love things to change quickly. So couples get frustrated and stop coming in for therapy, because “therapy does not work”. 

The intensive program is designed to create a space where you can focus 100% on your marriage and your partner. You'll also be encouraged to reflect on your role within the marriage and your shared life. The serene backdrop of Maui enhances the healing and restorative benefits of this experience. Investing your time and money into this remarkable opportunity will yield significant returns, primarily by fostering a renewed or newfound sense of connection. Additionally, you will learn how to co-create a marriage filled with purpose, intention, and joy. By the end of the program, you will leave with new conflict management tools and a deeper understanding of how to validate your partner's feelings and experiences.

This week of therapy is roughly equivalent to 6-9 months of weekly 90-minute couples therapy sessions. To put it in perspective, 26 weeks at $300 per session amounts to $7,800, while 39 weeks totals $11,700.

Alternatively, you can opt for my intensive program, which costs $5,600 for four days of 4-5 hours of intensive talk therapy with Me (the realest of the real Couples Therapist). This not only saves you months of time (including time spent scheduling, commuting, taking time off work, handling cancellations, etc.) but also saves you thousands of dollars.

Save yourself both time and money by booking a couples intensive today!

  • How It Works: Set Up/Cost

    In order for us to hit the ground running when you arrive on Maui, I will need to gather some information from each of you first. I will send out a few different questionnaires and will schedule a one hour individual session with each of you so that I can better understand your goals and your beliefs about the marriage and how you show up in it. This is included in the cost of the intensive.

    Cost for the 4 day intensive (16 hours ish) is $5600. We will also do an individual session with each of you virtually before the intensive. Current or former clients, Kama’aina and Military receive 10% off.

  • Where do we meet?

    Where do we meet?

    My office is located on the famous Baldwin Avenue, right in the heart of the Makawao Courtyard in Upcountry Maui. This is a special and historic location that holds deep significance for Maui and its residents. For those who might not be familiar, Makawao is a charming upcountry town known for its artistic community, unique boutiques, and vibrant culture. It truly is a gem on the island. The street is lined with food options for the lunch breaks we will take during the day.

  • Schedule

    While we will have a structure to the intensive, I want us to create the schedule together. We will meet M/T/Th/F from 10am until 3pm. Wednesdays are taken off for you as a couple to explore and connect by having fun. Each day will be spent digging into the themes of your conflict, uncovering any hidden dreams that have been getting stuck in your conflict, and dealing with real, in the moment negative communication patterns that I see and call out. I will also give you an alternative tool to use when I call out the negative one. As we dig in, process and begin to find trust through validation, we will also begin to make plans to ensure that you do not just go home and leave all the new skills, tools and hopefulness at the front door.

  • Follow Up

    Because of the intense nature of the retreat and then the inevitable come down from re-entering life, you are going to need additional support. I offer a follow up package of one two hour session a month (or a quarter), to check in, get any tool sharpening and check in to be sure that you are following your marriage plan. These sessions are an additional cost, charged at my hourly rate.

  • Can We Come Again?

    100% YES! I think that if a couple could do an intensive at a minimum every other year they would be able to maintain a very high level of relationship satisfaction and be able to stay masters of their relationship year after year.

 

What else will I get from this intensive?

The immersive nature of these intensives allows couples to dive deep into their issues, unearthing underlying patterns and dynamics more efficiently than the gradual pace of traditional therapy. With multiple hours of therapy each day, couples experience rapid progress and tangible results, making significant strides in just one week.

The concentrated focus of the intensive enables couples to address issues in real-time, with immediate feedback and guidance from Beth. This hands-on approach fosters quicker implementation of new tools and strategies, leading to faster resolution of conflicts and the cultivation of healthier communication patterns.

By condensing months' worth of therapy into a single week, our intensives offer unparalleled convenience and efficiency, making them ideal for couples with busy schedules or those seeking a more intensive intervention. Plus, the picturesque setting of Upcountry Maui provides a serene backdrop for reflection, relaxation, and rejuvenation, enhancing the overall therapeutic experience.

In essence, our Couples Therapy Intensives offer a holistic and accelerated approach to relationship healing, providing couples with the tools, insights, and support they need to create lasting change and cultivate a deeper connection.

Here are some reasons why couples choose intensives:

1. Deep Dive: With multiple hours of therapy each day, couples can delve deeply into their issues, gaining profound insights and understanding.

2. Immediate Feedback: Instead of waiting weeks between sessions, couples receive immediate feedback, allowing them to course-correct and implement new strategies in real-time.

3. Intensive Tools: Beth equips couples with a comprehensive toolkit for communication, conflict resolution, and emotional connection, empowering them to address challenges effectively.

4. Condensed Timeline: In just one week, couples experience the equivalent of six months' worth of progress, jumpstarting their journey towards a healthier relationship.

5. Focused Environment: Away from distractions, couples can fully focus on their relationship, fostering a deeper level of connection and intimacy.

6. Maui Magic: The stunning beauty of Upcountry Maui provides a serene backdrop for healing and growth, enhancing the overall therapeutic experience.

7. Research-Based Approach: Drawing from the latest research, including insights from Dr. John Gottman, Beth's approach is grounded in evidence-based practices that yield lasting results.

By choosing a couples therapy intensive with Beth Wylie, couples not only invest in their relationship but also set themselves on a path toward a more fulfilling and harmonious partnership.

I would also love you to begin to look at therapy in a new way, and understand what it takes to have a connected and fulfilling relationship. Unfortunately, many couples wait too long to give their marriage attention and effort. This intensive, as amazing as it is, can not save a marriage that has been dying on the vine for years. Not being attached to a result, especially to a result of complete reconciliation will also help in lessening the feeling of hopelessness. You might find that at the end of the intensive, the result that makes sense is to end the relationship. It might also look like a couple that acknowledges the past pain with validation and compassion, and a desire to keep doing therapy past the intensive to try to get the marriage back to a place that feels loving, trusting, and connected.

Marriage is a program of action, one that requires energy, effort, and intention. We need to work on the marriage every single day, even when it feels good and happy. That is actually when working on your marriage is the best. When you feel connected and loving towards your partner, you want to use the tools and put in energy. To speak in terms of the brain, where energy flows, neural firings go.

Finally, I want you to come to Maui so that you can escape the chaos for the calm. Learn tools to help you be more present in your life and your relationship. Sit comfortably in the moment, without fear or worry. While you are here, I want you to put all the toes you have in the sand, doing nothing but being with one another on this beautiful and healing Island!

 

  • Resistant? Hesitant? Read on ...

    Here is what I know. Many people decide too late to put in the effort needed to maintain a connected, loving marriage. I have seen and felt the panic that comes from one partner when the other partner says it is too late. I also hate hearing from clients that have decided to end their marriage, that if they had given it more time and more energy, they might still be married. I know you have seen those couples who are in their 2nd or 3rd marriages and they have learned through divorce, the importance of giving your marriage time and treating it as a priority.

  • "I can't take off work" ...

    I am going to ask you to be willing to see your life with more creativity and yourself as more empowered to live the life you want. One of the main reasons that I think couples counseling isn’t successful is because I get a lot of push back and hesitation when I ask either partner to change something in their schedule. I get a lot of, well I can’t, or, but my job, or, once we get through this busy season I will have more time to spend on the marriage. Something has to change, that is what I know for sure. Your willingness to make any needed changes will help each of you see that the marriage is a priority which will help build and maintain trust. While I understand we have to work to make the money, I have found that we, as a society, have placed work and productivity above our own needs and the needs of those we are in relationship with. Let’s change the norm so that work is a part of life, not the thing that competes with our life.

You ready? Let's Go!

Testimonials

“Beth is not afraid to tell either of us when we have said something that is critical or defensive. That is refreshing in a therapist.”

- Carolyn

“I can tell that Beth really cares about us and our relationship, she pushes us to be better and she acknowledges and celebrates victories that my partner and I do not see.”

- Jane