Bidding to connect is the cornerstone of keeping a relationship connected. Couple’s also need to be mindful of how they turn towards their partner’s bids. When bids are clear and met with loving kindness, you are living in a more positive space and enjoying a more positive relationship.

Have you ever gone on a long waited for vacation with your partner full of expectations of intimacy and quality time only to find yourself watching the sunset alone or sitting in silence at a very fancy, very expensive dinner?

It happens, A LOT. I hear about it in sessions once a couple has returned. So much disappointment, and so much time and money that was wasted because couples were not intentional, realistic or communicative when they planned this vacation.

I am on a mission to bring intentional vacations to couples, vacations that include, wait for it.....couples therapy!!!

Listen, enjoy and then book your intentional vacation with a side of couples therapy.

Bring Good Vibes Only when re connecting with your partner, be intentional with how you show up. This does not mean that we do not talk about difficult things, it means that even then, we are bringing the good vibes only. Listen to get a better idea of ways to be more intentional in creating positive sentiment in your relationship.

After we say “I do” and bring little humans into the world, affection in marriages tends too plummet. We have less of the make out sessions, or long hugs that we once engaged in. Which means that we start to assume things about the other which are of course usually wrong, and the result is even less affection, hurt feelings and mis understandings.

Tone of voice has a huge impact on a relationship, usually in the negative. It is a way to non verbally show contempt towards your partner which is the number 1 predictor of divorce according to Dr. John Gottman and his research with The Gottman Institute.

Most couples feel disconnected and unappreciated from one another for what they contribute to the family and combined life. Appreciation is something we often think, but don’t say. Learn a few reasons why appreciations are so valuable in adding deposits to your emotional bank account, as well as, ways to ritualized giving and receiving appreciations.

Love mapping is fundamental to a marriage. Love mapping is what we did early on and it is one of the factors that went into deciding to be together for the long term. The sad news is that once we say, “I DO”, we tend to stop love mapping. Here a 6 steps in making sure you become a super star love mapper.